Why You Should Fly Solo
Be ready for a long read... or read some of it and then exit out. Up to you. ;)
This past spring break I had a last minute change of plans. Typically, I'd go to visit my father who lives in California. Unfortunately, things come up and shit happens so I didn't go. That's when I decided I still desperately wanted to leave Minnesota. I wanted to be somewhere warm and I wanted to relax and not do shit. So I did something I had always wanted to do. I booked a trip for 4 days by myself to Phoenix, Arizona. I found and paid for my own flight, my room, my food, transportation and touristy adventures. It was by far the best decision I've ever made on my own and probably the only thing I've done 100% independently, with my own time, money and brain.
I'm already a pretty independent person. I enjoy going off on my own and most of the time I look forward to it. But still, this trip was an incredible learning experience so I wanted to share what I'd learned from it and the main reasons why you should do it too.
Seriously though. If you are financially stable enough to do it, then do it. Pay for it, plan it and then go fricken do it. I was amazed at how fulfilling it was to know that I worked my butt off for this trip. I saved my money, did well in school and work, saved more money and bam... I rewarded myself with a trip to a sunny and warm destination. Not only will the experience help you find your own independence, but the process of getting there will too. Being nervous and slightly scared is normal, but the benefits outweigh all of those initial emotions. Traveling alone doesn't just establish more independence, but it also empowers you. It makes you realize how capable you are.
YOU ARE CAPABLE
Putting money aside for a minute, I want to tell you that you are capable of this. You have the ability to travel alone and you're going to be fine doing so. Sure, you might get lost a few times, catch the wrong bus, lose your credit card or forget to pack toiletries (this all happened to me...), but you will be okay. You're a lot smarter than you think. Got lost? Good things you most likely have GPS on your phone or people around who are willing to help you out. Caught the wrong bus? Go with it and enjoy the unknown or just get off and take the right one. Lose your credit card? Easy, call your bank and put it on hold, then retrace your steps (if able) and find it. Forget toiletries? Go buy them at a convenience store. You will be mind blown at how smart you are. It was also that point for me when I realized that I'm an adult. All of those mishaps (and more) happened, but I took care of it not once asking my mom for help.
A trip alone will teach you how to manage everything, in fact it will force you to. It's kinda part of becoming an adult. You will be forced to manage and track how much money you spend, where you spend it and how you spend it. You will learn the public transportation system, unless you're super fancy and can afford to get a taxi or Uber everywhere you go. It makes you find your way around; learn to get lost and then find your way back. Most importantly, I learned how to be better at taking care of myself. A skill everyone clearly needs.
Literally. There's no one to tell you what to do, when to do it or how to do it. You do whatever you want and at your own pace. I woke up at 8am because I wanted to catch the bus to go the Zoo where I got to walk slowly and look at the animals I wanted to see. I didn't have to wait for my family to get up or keep up with them and miss any animals. I also woke up at 11am, got the kind of food I wanted and then was lazy by the pool. No one told me I had to move faster or go to the restaurant they wanted to go to. I did what I wanted, when I wanted to. Who doesn't like that every once in awhile? It was freedom.
YOU MIGHT LOVE IT
Look at all of those benefits! ⇧ It might still seem intimidating, but you might just love doing it in the end. Why not take a crazy chance ( ⇦Hilary Duff reference) and just test it out? Maybe it's just for a weekend or four days, either way it doesn't hurt. In the end it's still a learning experience, but I still think a lot more people would enjoy it if they just tried.
"Adventure is out there" (Up reference).